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Developing Your 'Wise Mind' + News

Updated: Dec 1, 2023

Happy November Dream Queens and our supporters,

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This last year keeps spinning in my head and I want to share a few thoughts with you. The first thing I have noticed during the recovery from COVID is that many people are prioritizing their families and personal time more. They are making conscious decisions on how to spend their time and choosing not to over burden themselves. We have all learned how fleeting the present can be and I feel this is a change for the better.

The other thing that I see happening is everyone trying to ‘catch up’ and there is the constant feeling of anxiety and worry. This is the opposite of my first point, and I feel that there is a lesson in these two extremes. It is easy to get swept up in the fever of the holidays and to feel like there is never enough time. I can see guilt around both sides of this dilemma and it is all about time. So how do we manage our time and our feelings and our responsibilities and our families and our holidays, etc., etc., etc.

Recently we added a piece to our facilitator training about the ‘Wise Mind’ that was taught to us by Kathleen Stark, LMSW and I find it profoundly helpful. The wise mind is when we acknowledge and use both sides of our minds the analytical/reasonable side and the emotional side to make decisions. I have found myself floating from one to the other and not making much progress. The value of the Wise Mind to me is that you cannot make any decisions until you acknowledge both.

For example, this event has my mind spinning, what about this, did I forget that, should I have done this? And so on. Then on the other side is this is going to be a big mess, everyone is going to be angry or never support us again, who am I to try to run a program, and events, and, and, and. The emotional side is usually the most debilitating but the analytical makes so many darn lists I don’t know where to start.

So the Wise Mind tells us to ask yourself questions until you find the root of the issue and then you have the ability to prioritize and maintain your emotional self. Ignoring one or the other is where we make spontaneous decisions that may not be the best all around choice or is absolutely wrong but it sure felt right. The spontaneous emotional mind is the one that rattles off a text message that is as long as a book to a person’s text that you are just shouting your feelings before you have time to come up with a reasonable response. We have all been there, am I right?!



So who is right the one who is prioritizing their personal time or the one who is trying to do everything? I feel they are both right if they are making the decision from a Wise Mind. They are choosing family not out of obligation or because they were told to do so but because they value their time and want to be present with their loved ones. So what about the anxious person who feels overwhelmed with responsibility, I think we are all that person throughout the day, week, month, and year. The issue I feel, is living in that place. Asking what is important, what needs to be done, what must be done, what do I want to do, and why. Then we can prioritize, maybe mark our calendars for each item we need to do and set aside time to do them. I always feel the most out of control in my thinking when I don’t have a plan of action and I am just going through my days and taking everything as it comes.


In the end we are human. We are going to feel and do silly and smart stuff. We are going to look out for ourselves and others. And sometimes we are going to overreact out of turn. At the end it is about intention and choice. We cannot always choose our circumstances and our have to’s but we can control how we respond to them and how we choose to react. I hope these words are helpful to you as you move into the holiday season. Don’t beat yourself up the moment you make a mistake, just make a new decision, and move on. Don’t worry about what could have been better cause you can’t do anything about it. You can only choose differently next time. Let’s take one day at a time together. Let’s enjoy each other and get stuff done. And please remember everyone around you is also a human who makes mistakes and give them grace. Be kind and the rest will work itself out.


Upcoming Speaker: Caterina Rando


Thriving Women in Business

Caterina Rando

Email: cat@caterinarando.com

Website: https://caterinarando.com/

Phone: 415-350-6854


Caterina Rando is on a mission to teach, mentor, and support women to be themselves, do their thing, serve their people and massively monetize their mastery. She shows women

entrepreneurs how to be loud and proud about the value they bring in order to make their

businesses thrive. Her clients grow, shine, expand, open themselves up to new possibilities, and take their businesses further than ever before. Caterina is all about positivity, integrity, generosity, community, and providing massive value while uplifting others. She is a sought- after-speaker, event producer, and author. Her latest book is the ABCs of Public Speaking. Her book, Learn to Think Differently, from Watkins Publishing is published in over thirteen countries and several languages. Caterina Rando is on a mission to teach, mentor, and support women to be themselves, do their thing, serve their people and massively monetize their mastery. She shows women entrepreneurs how to be loud and proud about the value they bring in order to make their businesses thrive. Her clients grow, shine, expand, open themselves up to new possibilities, and take their businesses further than ever before. Caterina is all about positivity, integrity, generosity, community, and providing massive value while uplifting others. She is a sought-after-speaker, event producer, and author. Her latest book is the ABCs of Public Speaking. Her book, Learn to Think Differently, from Watkins Publishing is published in over thirteen countries and several languages. Caterina has been the featured or keynote speaker at over 2,000 live events in the United States and abroad.


Caterina is the founder of The Thriving Women in Business Giving Community. This group of big-hearted women, raise money for women and girls education and entrepreneurship training. She wants women to know that they do not have to wait until they are wealthy or retired before they can embrace philanthropy. This is the clear message in the Women’s Giving Circle Guide, a book she co-authored with C.J. Hayden.


Caterina is also the founder of the Thriving Women in Business Center, located in San Francisco. This is an attractive and warm place for women to come and do their workshops. Caterina's plan is to open more centers throughout northern California. Caterina is recognized for her special way of infusing business with making a difference. She has received the Extraordinary Woman Award from Developing Alliances. The American Businesswomen Association bestowed on her the Woman of Distinction Award and she has also received the Limitless Woman Award from the Limitless Woman Conference.

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